If a labouring woman doesn’t look like a Goddess,Ina May Gaskin
then someone isn’t treating her right.
I’m the mother of Luna and Ravi and the partner of Arnoud. I’m Italian, Dutch for love.
Since 2014 I live in Amsterdam, where through my work as a yoga teacher and doula, I support women during the wonderful and challenging months of their pregnancy and along their journey to motherhood.
The births of my children couldn’t have been more different. Both times I had chosen an independent midwife and I had planned a homebirth, but with Ravi in 2017 I had to transfer to the hospital after 24 hours without much progression, meconium and complete exhaustion. There I opted for an epidural, and my son was born after 10 more hours of labour and 2,5 hours of pushing… His birth left me feeling like I had failed, doubting my body and the birthing process. Nevertheless when I got pregnant with Luna I decided to give it another try – and what a great experience that turned out to be!
She was born peacefully at home, under the excited eyes of her bother, after the most loving and intimate 7 hours Arnoud and I ever shared and two mighty pushes.
Her birth taught me a few important lessons: first and foremost it showed me that my body did know what to do, and that the fact that with my boy I had needed extra help didn’t take anything away from that experience. On the other hand! The easy arrival of Luna, made me realise how much more strength and courage it had taken me to bring Ravi earth-side through all the pain and the doubt.
I also really learned what I now try to teach all if my clients: that it is not (or it should not) be about the birth you get, but about going through it standing in your power, being feel fully in charge of your story, respected and supported in your informed choices.
There aren’t many moments in life able to show us how strong and powerful we are, but birth is one of them. It leads us deep within ourselves to emerge on the other side changed, renewed, and enriched with a new awareness of ourselves. My job is to hold the space so that for you as well it can be just as magical.